Janis Spindel Serious Matchmaking

05 Dec Want The Person Who Wants You!

Life is short. Romance, passion, success, and love are needed to make life fulfilling and great. Just like significant ingredients are needed to make life amazing, the same is true for a relationship. A relationship needs both people to love, cherish, respect, and care about each other equally.

Many people date someone who doesn’t really want them. Their partner doesn’t give them everything that they need. How do you know if you’re dating a man or a woman who really wants you? Well, that’s simple. You should be able to immediately answer YES to all of these questions.

  1. Compliments Are Key

Does the person you’re dating compliment you? Does he tell you that you’re beautiful? Does she tell you that you’re handsome? When you’re dating someone who wants you, they should flatter you often.

  1. I Feel So Good

Does he make you feel good about yourself? When you’ve had a bad day, does she still make you feel great? Does he empower you to feel like you can do anything? Does she tell you that you’re awesome? When you’re involved with someone, they’re supposed to make you feel fantastic – ALL the time!

  1. Intelligence is Sexy

In a strong relationship, your partner is supposed to make you feel wonderful. Does she tell you that you’re smart? Does he think that you’re intelligent? The person you’re dating is supposed to bring you up.

  1. Be Supportive

Does he emotionally support you? Does she mentally encourage you? When you care about someone, you want them to succeed and be happy doing whatever they love. You don’t have to share each other’s passions, but you should want to stand beside them as they pursue their goals.

  1. Some Encouragement, Please

Does he make you want to be a better person? Does she encourage you to be the best version of yourself? The person you’re with should inspire you to be extra fabulous.

  1. Let’s Get Busy

Do you want each other? A relationship is supposed to be pleasurable – literally. Does your partner want to pleasure you? To keep it G rated, answer these questions. Does he want to kiss you often? Does she want to make out with you whenever she can? Plain and simple, your partner should want to sexually satisfy you.

  1. I’m Special

Does he make you feel special? Does she make you feel lucky? When you’re happy with someone, you feel like you’re on top of the world. You feel fortunate because you’re dating someone incredible. The person you’re seeing should feel that way too.

  1. Be Caring

Does he surprise you with your favorite dessert? Does she ever bring home your meal of choice just because? The man you’re dating should show you that he cares about you by being thoughtful. The woman you’re seeing should make your day better by doing small things to show you how much she adores you.

  1. A Little Romance

Romance is needed to keep a relationship alive. If you like flowers, does he ever bring them home for you? If you hate a certain chore, does she ever do it for you? Does he leave you a note saying how he can’t wait to see you later? Does she ever send you a love text? Being romantic is a simple way to increase your love connection.

The man or woman you’re seeing should make you feel like a King or a Queen. I hear too many stories of people who aren’t happy in a relationship –  they’re just comfortable. They’re afraid of going back to the dating pool so they stay with someone out of fear. Don’t let that be you. Whether you’ve been with someone for 5 months, or 5 years, you deserve the best. You should be with someone who wants you.

Carly Spindel
carly@janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Carly Spindel is persistent, vivacious, and gregarious. With over 110 successful marriages, Carly is a pioneer in the industry. Carly has been featured on Eye Witness News, Sunrise Australia, and Good Day NY. Carly has been seen in The New York Observer, Elle Magazine, Thrillist, Crains, Resident Magazine, and Fortune Magazine. She is a dating and relationship expert and contributes to publications such as Jdate, StyleCaster, the Huffington Post, Guest of A Guest, and Elite Daily.