Josh was a professional tennis player who made millions of dollars and all the young ladies liked him for his fame and winnings. He knew that and even so, loved the attention. He enjoyed the glamorous lifestyle of traveling around the world as a single young man, playing in prestigious tournaments, and dating beautiful women. He didn’t care much about settling down or finding true love or even marriage. He was happy with his life as it was.

But as he matured, his family started to pressure him to find a nice lady who didn’t want to be his groupie but a wife to him and spend the rest of her life with Josh for Josh. They told him that fame and money were not everything, and that he needed someone who would love him for who he was, not what he had. They warned him that he would regret it if he didn’t find a partner soon, before he got too old or injured to play

.Josh listened to his family, but he didn’t take their advice seriously. His family even suggested outsourcing his love life through a dating coach or even a matchmaker. He thought he had plenty of time to find the right person, and he didn’t want to give up his freedom and fun. He continued to date casually, without any commitment or expectations. He thought he was happy, until he met Her.

Her name was Anna, and she was a journalist who interviewed him after one of his matches. She was smart, witty, and charming, and she asked him questions that no one else had ever asked him before. She didn’t seem impressed by his fame or winnings, but rather by his personality and passion. She made him laugh, and she made him think.

Josh felt a connection with her that he had never felt with anyone else. He asked her out for dinner, and she agreed. They had a wonderful time together, talking about everything and nothing. Josh felt like he could be himself with her, without any pretense or pressure. He liked her, and he wanted to see her again.

But Anna had other plans. She told him that she was leaving the next day for another assignment, and that she couldn’t see him again. She said that she enjoyed their time together, but that it was just a one-time thing. She said that she wasn’t looking for anything serious, and that she didn’t want to get involved with someone like him.

Josh was stunned. He couldn’t believe that she was rejecting him so easily. He had never been turned down by a woman before, especially not one that he liked so much. He tried to persuade her to change her mind, but she was firm. She said goodbye to him, and left.

Josh felt a pang of pain in his chest that he had never felt before. He realized that he had fallen for her, and that he had let her go. He regretted not telling her how he felt, and not asking her to stay. He wondered if he would ever see her again, or if he had missed his chance.

He realized that his family was right. He needed someone who would love him for who he was, not what he had. He needed someone like Anna. He decided to change his life. He decided to find her.

Janis and Carly launched their secrets to running a  matchmaking service on Amazon audio book.

One of the dating tips Carly Spindel writes about for the Huff Post, is how when a man has charisma, he is defined as having swagger, being unique, and possessing a certain je ne sais quoi, or just not being “vanilla.”

When a man is charismatic, it makes him that much cooler. Women love a man who is charming. Women will find you irresistible and want to date you.

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